What Lipstick For Men?

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Now if you ask me that question, I’ll just pop-up, impolitely and quite aggressively saying “No lipstick whatsoever for my man!”. But I’m not the only voice that should be raised to answer this question, so I’m looking forward to hearing your opinion!

Men and lipstick just don’t make good home in my view. My vision of a man is seriously similar to one you get a glimpse at in those old Marlboro Country ads. Rough. Worked, working hard. Man-ish. Times have changed and the metro man now is just another way to describe the effeminate man. Lipstick? What’s next? Borrowing those pink silk lady shavers? (I know it’s delicately put, I know it’s dangerously close to the edge – but I’m carefully trying not to touch the gay-section of men here. I’m just talking straight men wearing lipstick. Are there any out there?) (photos via)

Red Lipstick tartan

tartan Red Lipstick

man wearing Red Lipstick

33 comments

#1 mdinah on 07.28.10 at 4:33 pm

you were extremely polite thank you very much indeed.
gay or not, men should not wear lipstick , EVER!!!
its just plain wrong..

#2 Adriana on 07.29.10 at 2:48 am

Heya, Boy George or glam rock is back in a new sophisticated look ?
It’s not really new after all……sings ‘Jean genie let yourself go, woh ho…..

(I’m in my old Bowie songs fase…:) )

#3 Adriana on 07.29.10 at 2:53 am

P.S. But not on my man! :D

#4 Adriana on 07.29.10 at 2:58 am

P.S.S. Wonders if men are gonna reply just as I remember the article about men and lingerie!

#5 John on 08.09.10 at 2:12 pm

I am a straight man and I love to wear lipstick, perfumed body lotions, bras and panties. I have man boobs that are pronounced because I am not fat. So I started wearing bras, shaving my body hair because hairy boobs do not look good. From bras it went to more feminization but I am still straight sexually.

I wish men were free to wear what we wanted including lipstick.

ps: I have a pretty boy face and I look good wearing lipstick.

#6 cc on 08.09.10 at 6:42 pm

Thanks for making me smile :) I remember a blonde teenager I used to know who wore black eyeliner to school every day. He was straight (as far as anyone knew), with piercing blue eyes and the eyeliner really made his eyes pop! True, makeup on men can look amazing – perhaps more men should have the confidence to wear it if they know it suits them! From a fashion point of view it’s fabulous – it’s just that I don’t know how many straight women would be attracted to the idea of kissing a lipsticked mouth – it’s too feminine in a sexual sense.

#7 Rayge on 08.21.10 at 11:58 am

Okay, no smoochiepoos for my man if he tries that. It’s just wierd. I like men with a feminine side, (miniscule amount) but this is just wrong. I can just see the first group of manly-men to spot this, there would be lip prints all over their knuckles. Sorry, but that is the way it is. Now black lipstick is okay for Rockers and such, but RED?!

#8 John H. on 10.13.10 at 12:44 pm

If I as a man were to wear lipstick it would be dark red – certainly not a bright red. It would be a accessory with a black dress, fingernails with dark gray nail polish, sheer black pantyhose and black high heeled pumps. Straight black lipstick is a bit too harsh, so the dark red would be a compromise.

I can’t think of another outfit that I would care to wear lipstick – certainly not with a traditional man’s suit.

I would wear such a dress outfit only to a formal occasion – such as a symphony concert.

#9 John H. on 10.13.10 at 1:21 pm

Further comments – the lipstick on that male model above would not look good on a female if she was wearing the same outfit. The lipstick needs to be a more neutral color with all the busy plaids in the outfit.

#10 wtf on 10.15.10 at 4:30 am

I admit that I have always found the subject of men in the western world, wearing make-up fascinating.

Ever hear of the #1 selling rock band in the world, KISS? All wear lipstick, high heels and leather bondage gear. To even suggest that they were gay could get you physically assaulted.

Motley Crue? Yep, Each has slept with THOUSANDS of women and MILLIONS of women were crazy for them for over a decade (many still are). All wore trashy make-up, stiletto heels and lacy undergarments. No problem there…

Primitive people from ALL OVER THE WORLD wore, and many STILL wear make-up and paint on their lips.

It’s now not only openly accepted, condoned and encouraged but TRENDY to be gay, lesbian or bise*ual. DARE say ANYTHING negative about someone who’s gay (even if they happen to be a total je*k) and you will most likely be accused of being an intolerant, homophobic gay-basher.

Now, watch a guy try to wear any kind of make-up, any day of the month but Oct 31. He will be humiliated, ostracized, ridiculed and possible even beaten. “You can constantly flaunt the fact that you enjoy same se* relations, all day, every day… but wearing paint on your face is just going too far”.

Wearing lipstick has become so taboo that most WOMEN won’t even wear it anymore. BELIEVE ME, MOST NEED TO START. SERIOUSLY.

The Western world is truly a very bizarre and EXTREMELY hypocritical place to live in. You can do WHATEVER you want — just as long as you blend in with everyone else and only dress and act in the ways that have been pre-approved by the people that you see on T.V. If dressing a certain way makes you feel comfortable, empowered, unique, beautiful, sexy or good in any way that hasn’t been OK’d first, you could get your face smashed in.

Long hair was that way for a while… then the hippies changed it.

Purple Mohawks, numerous face piercings and tattoos where that way… then came the punks. Now it’s so trendy it’s BORING to see yet another kid with a green (yawn) Mohawk.

There’s something about lipstick that is to feminine and sexy though. If a straight man sees another man wear it, I think it triggers some kind of primal pissing contest. They see it as some kind of threat because… deep inside, it turns se*ual part of their brain on. They interpret it as some kind of a threat. Why else would a 220 lb., macho weight lifter feel threatened by a 90 lb. guy wearing lipstick? It’s absolutely ridiculous.

Most people think that our society is advanced. HA! HA! What a joke. Maybe if you consider first grade advanced…

So just remember, you MUST be tolerant of the groups of people that the “powers that be” have determined that you need to be tolerant of. If the group of people behaves in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable AND THEY’RE not a celebrity or fall into a group that requires mandatory tolerance, it’s recommended that you be EXTREMELY intolerant of them until further notice… THE MANAGEMENT.

Let freedom ring…

#11 John H. on 10.15.10 at 7:51 am

With the risk of being beaten, I feel like doing the following:
1. Carry pepper spray around.
2. Do weight lifting and master the martial arts so that some would-be bully would be beaten by a dude in a dress – that would be the ULTIMATE humiliation. I am not small – I weigh about 190 lbs.

#12 John H. on 10.15.10 at 11:39 am

“Most people think that our society is advanced. HA! HA! What a joke. Maybe if you consider first grade advanced…”

Very good point – consider the following:

Yes, in this “advanced” society we still use inches, feet, and miles – while everybody else uses SI units – the metric system.

In this “advanced” society people drive at 110 km/hr (70 miles per hour). In Germany they drive at 200 km/hour (125 miles per hour).

In this “advanced” society we don’t have really high speed trains – but they are present in China and Europe.

In this “advanced” society we have infrastructure falling apart.

In this “advanced” society we are in 11th place in the quality of life in this country and falling quickly behind.

In this “advanced” society we manage to spend the most per capita on health care and yet other nations do better at the health care.

I could go on and on – instead of us thinking about ourselves as being advanced and having our heads in the sand we need to take stock and work on some of those things.

#13 Ravenhair on 10.21.10 at 11:01 am

While make-up tends to look good on certain individuals, actors, musicians, and such. This looks a bit too feminine for me. I admire the strength of character that these men display, however. Men should have some of the freedoms of women, but we should also have some of the freedoms of men. They can go around shirtless, and do not have to shave. Not that I would do either, but it does noit seem fair that men can wear our makeup and we cannot follow their ways appropriately and without judgement.

#14 JohnH on 10.25.10 at 2:14 pm

To answer Ravenhair –

I as a man do shave my arms, legs, and chest. I do not like to go around shirtless since my breasts are too big. However, I am not going to wear lipstick if ever unless I am wearing appropriate traditional feminine clothing e.g., a dress. I will certainly not wear lipstick with any traditional masculine clothing – which I wear most of the time.

#15 Ravenhair on 11.04.10 at 9:32 am

To answer JohnH-
I completely understand, the shaving, John. It is not attraactive for even men to be overly-hairy. I myself prefer a man with a smooth chest. I appeciate your answer. It is good to know that a man out there understands us even a little bit. You are brave, no doubt about that, and accepting of yourself, that is admirable.

#16 JohnH on 11.30.10 at 1:53 pm

I have to rescind my former harsh opinion of lipstick on men. I broke down and got lipstick that is only slightly darker than my natural lip color and is subtle so that it does not look much different than my natural lips. The male model above went off the deep end and put on something too garish. It really feels good on the lips with the cold weather and dry air inside.

#17 USA_Mom on 12.04.10 at 8:07 pm

On a funny note….

Did you notice that the mole on the model’s face is in a different spot in every photo? LOL

#18 JohnH on 12.06.10 at 2:34 pm

“mdinah
you were extremely polite thank you very much indeed.
gay or not, men should not wear lipstick , EVER!!!
its just plain wrong..”

That is a typical sexist remark that a woman would make – I agree that model wore a really garish color. There are shades that are subtle that a man can wear.

A lot of women also have the nerve to criticise men for wearing skirts when they wear pants.

#19 mdinah on 12.07.10 at 3:56 am

Oh Lord, now its with me…
John… we all got your point already, sweet heart.
you got lipstick.Great! Enjoy it!
I change my underwear every single day ,neverthless I don’t feel the need to tell it to the world.
If you are feeling down and in need of attention, I suggest you use it not only on your lips but all over your face and take a walk around.Certainly it will help.
Yes, men have the rights to do whatever women do.
Refraining from those rights sometimes show more maturity than indulging in them.
Enjoy your day:-)

#20 JohnH on 12.07.10 at 12:39 pm

mdinah,

The point is the lipstick I have in not very conspicuous. It matches my natural lip color very closely, unlike the very garish color shown on the male model.

I really did take issue with your emphatic unconditional statement that was not warranted. I would have accepted a statement the model should not have worn such a garish color, but to say unconditionally that it is wrong for a man to wear lipstick ever is really arbitrary.

I certainly will not smear it all over my face.

There are some older men with grey lips that could stand a subtle enhancement.

A lot of times men simply don’t have the confidence to go outside their very narrow comfort zones. It is part of the “masculinity anxiety” that is pandemic with this society, and your attitudes and attitudes of others perpetuate that notion.

As a proof of this “masculinity anxiety” situation,
there are these ridiculous euphemisms floating around – guyliner instead of eyeliner, manscara instead of mascara, mantyhose instead of pantyhose, and moob instead of boob that some men insist on using.

Have a wonderful day.

#21 kirat on 12.30.10 at 12:44 pm

men should wear lipstick…….for looking nice…….even he is spending his life freely….

#22 Free the men on 02.21.11 at 1:35 pm

The men in the western society, is just as deprived of their rights to dress and look as they want, as the eastern women are.

Stand up for our rights!

#23 Vyvyan on 06.16.11 at 12:30 pm

I have to admit I do not like the pictures very much – but not because of the lipstick.
The clothes, the hair and the hidden eyebrows, that is what I dislike.
Actually, the lipstick looks very good. I would really appreciate more man wearing lipstick or make-up in generall. This is, of course, a very subjective oppinion, but for me make-up really suits people, if men or women is not that important.

“Wtf” is ineed right with his/her comment. Mötley Crüe is a well choosen example of straight men wearing clothes and make-up so provocative it could be from a whore. (This is no offence, neither for whores, nor for the Crüe ;-) )

Furthermore, the first picture is very beautiful and sensual, the lips, the line of the chin and the neck … <3

I wish men can wear woman's clothes and woman men's clothes. There should be no NO-GOES.
Thus, be brave, you men!

#24 Vyvyan on 06.16.11 at 12:31 pm

P.S.:

I would also appreciate having a boyfriend who wears (red) lipstick!

#25 John E on 11.03.11 at 11:31 am

Vyvyan,

You could have me baby :-)

#26 Vyvyan on 11.23.11 at 2:21 pm

John,

I’m sorry to disappoint you, some one was faster than you ;)

But post a picture anway, please! :)

#27 Barbra on 09.22.12 at 4:05 am

Nothing wrong with it

My boyfriend is small built and looks great in lipstick and skirts And is 61

#28 shawn on 09.23.12 at 2:49 pm

I just love lipstick most times no one even notices it unless I’m right in their faces or wearing something very bold.

#29 Liam Ritchie on 09.26.12 at 5:51 am

I like women to wear lipstick, perfect make-up and pretty dresses – preferably in feminine patterns and colours. At no point should they wear pants – that’s just gross. Bare legs just look common and – let’s be honest – thick tights are fine for schoolgirls but not for young ladies.

I also prefer women to wear delicate high heels – flats on women do nothing for me. All of this combined with a quiet submissive nature – I like women who stay at home making themselves, the kids and the home pretty and nice for their man to come home from work to…

Nauseated yet?

I was… by the previous posts detailing the box you want your men to fit into. He might look good in lipstick – he might not – either way the silly little “but not on my man” comments show a real lack of maturity.

#30 JohnH on 09.26.12 at 12:10 pm

Excellent comment – why is it OK for women to expect men to conform to very restrictive stereotypes while men are not allowed to express their desire for women to conform to rigid stereotypes? If a man expressed the opinion described by Liam Ritchie he would be considered a se>

John

#31 Shay on 10.12.12 at 1:25 pm

My personal opinion is that I (a girl) do not like to wear lipstick. I find it tacky/sticky feeling. On that note I would not kiss a man wearing it because, personally, I do not like it on my own lips.
My opinion of general men wearing lipstick: Do what you want. Just don’t expect me to kiss you with it on.
I personally use lipstain & lipbalm. I love them! If I were dating a guy that used a very subtle natural lipstain, I probably would not even notice.

#32 Sean on 02.27.13 at 11:31 pm

I personally think men are far less free than women are. It’s really sad. Take the issue of pants vs skirts. Men can only wear garments with two leg holes while women can wear garments with one or two leg holes. Women can give their faces a refined, finished look but men must suffer the consequences of looking their age or living with acne or war scars. Think about it.
I think that if a few straight actors or athletes began using a very modest amount of foundation, maybe a bronzed and very neutral lip color, in time men’s makeup would be accepted and would evolve. Just do it. I have a skin issue. I began carrying a Cover Girl foundation. Each afternoon when quitting time approaches and the women begin to touch up makeup, I reapply coverup. At first this was scandalous but now itis totally acceptable.change takes time and must be subtle.

#33 Charles on 10.22.13 at 12:12 pm

I wear lipstick a lot, especially when I go out at night or shopping in the city. I don’t look at it as a masculine/feminine issue, but just doing what makes you look good and feel good. I also love to smoke a cigar when I’m on a date and I know I look good with a cigar between my lips. I like dewy corals during daytime and transition to Dior 999 and one of the Mac reds later in the evening when I’m alone with my date. And I, too, love the feel of lingerie.

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